Kids at a wedding? The question can be polarizing. Some people fall very much on the side of allowing all guests to bring their children along with them, while others plan for weddings that are adults only. And then there’s the middle ground, where bridal couples will include some children, for example, the kids of close family and the flower girl and ring bearer, but not make an open invitation for all guests to bring their kids.
Here at Legacy Stables and Events, we host weddings with guests of all ages at our private facilities,and have the space and services to help accommodate your group. We also have experience with adult-only events and can help you find the right way to get that message across without alienating your friends.
Kids or No Kids? Weighing the Options
Maybe you’ve always dreamed of asking your little niece to be the flower girl at your wedding. There’s something so cute about a little girl wearing a special dress, throwing out flowers ahead of the bride as she walks down the aisle. For some brides, there’s never a question of whether or not to allow kids at the wedding.
- Kids bring laughter, funny moments, and a special energy to the reception
- For bridal couples who have family members and friends with kids, inviting them means not having to find childcare
On the other hand, maybe your dream wedding is an evening affair, with a cocktail party and a plated dinner. You might choose not to invite kids to your wedding:
- If it’s later in the evening
- You’re having a formal wedding with no children in the wedding party
Preparing for Kids at Your Wedding
If you do decide to include children in your wedding festivities, whether they’re a part of the wedding party or just guests, make sure they feel welcome and included. For outdoor weddings, you can have bubbles at the table settings to provide entertainment during the pictures and while people are giving toasts. You might also choose to have some games, such as cornhole, set up to give little ones something to do.
The Etiquette of an Adults-Only Wedding
For bridal couples who choose to have an adult-only wedding, our experience at Legacy Stables and Events has shown that being clear about your expectations early on can help make sure no one’s feelings get hurt and everyone has a good time.
It is important to address the invitations explicitly, so people understand exactly who is invited. You might also consider saying something on the invitation such as, “We would like our special day to be an adults-only occasion.”
Be aware that in some cases, people you invite might choose not to attend if they can’t bring their children with them. But communicating your wishes ahead of time can help give them time to make plans. You might also choose to have childcare provided on-site, as a way to allow guests to attend and you still have the child-free reception you planned.
Whether your wedding plans include children or not, our team at Legacy Stables and Events has experience hosting all types of wedding parties. When you schedule a tour with us we can go over all of the options available, including places to provide childcare during your event, or areas where kids’ activities can be set up. We have the knowledge and facilities to help make your wedding exactly how you always dreamed it would be.
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